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Dancing at the Pity Party

Dancing at the Pity Party

A Dead Mom Graphic Memoir

Graphic Novel - 2020
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"Tyler Feder shares her story of her mother's first oncology appointment to facing reality as a motherless daughter in this frank and refreshingly funny graphic memoir."--
Publisher: New York : Dial Books, [2020]
Copyright Date: ©2020
ISBN: 9780525553021
Branch Call Number: YA 362.175 F3171F 2020
Characteristics: 201 pages : chiefly colour illustrations ; 24 cm


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2021 Sydney Taylor Book Award, Young Adult winner, for outstanding books for children and teens that authentically portray the Jewish experience.

(TEEN GRAPHIC NOVEL) "By far, my favorite title of 2020!" - Summer

(TEEN GRAPHIC NOVEL) After the author's mother dies of uterine cancer when her oldest daughter is 19, Feder (Unladylike for adults) finds herself longing for something "that cradles my grief without smothering it."

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ChinesaR_KCMO Feb 06, 2021

This book was very well written and beautifully illustrated. Even though I knew what it was about going in, I was unprepared for how gut-wrenchingly sad it would be. I cried *so much*. So yeah, definite trigger warning if you have any recent grief, cuz it'll hit you like a truck. So glad this was recommended to me

Feb 05, 2021

I'm not sure how to describe this book other than incredibly DEPRESSING! Granted this is a book completely about death. In this book the author wrote about her own experience with loosing a loved one. Specifically about loosing her mother to Cancer. I felt like this book must have been incredibly therapeutic for the author to shed light on the most heart breaking event in her life. Although as sorrowful as this story was, this graphic novel was written in a very light and airy way. The author cracked a lot of jokes and drew most of the graphic novel in beautiful, happy pastel colors. There were no dark colors used other than at the mother's funeral. I personally couldn't relate to the main character's grief but I imagine anyone who has dealt with the loss of a parent would probably cry for the majority of this book. Why anyone would want to do that to themselves I'm not sure. I did like this book, but I would never want to read this book ever, ever again. I would also never recommend this book to someone, since this book is incredibly depressing. The author even showed real pictures of her dead mother with her family at the end of the graphic novel... like rip my heart out! This was an incredibly sad read, I don't recommend it, unless you want to be sad, but like why would you ever want to be sad?

Sep 30, 2020

Even though this graphic novel made me cry a couple of times, I absolutely loved it! So clear, and on the money when it comes to how it feels when you lose someone you love.

CCPL_Teens Sep 17, 2020

Dancing at the Pity Party by Tyler Feder is a graphic novel about terminal illness and the loss of a loved one. The book chronicles Feder’s mom and her battle with cancer. For a book about death, it’s surprisingly witty as Feder uses humor as a coping mechanism. The book is both a portrait of Feder’s mom and a reflection on the roles mothers play in our lives. Feder illustrates how anchoring this relationship could be even after death. In addition to humor, the book uses bright colors and playful text to alleviate its sadder tones. Feder’s drawing style reminds me of Victoria Jamieson’s books Roller Girl and All’s Faire in Middle School. Readers who enjoy these titles may also enjoy this book, as well.

Jul 24, 2020

This book was phenomenal. It felt like Tyler Feder hugged me and said, "It sucks, I know." A great book to read if you or someone you know has lost someone.

LPL_MaryW Mar 08, 2020

When Tyler Feder was a sophomore in college, her mom died. It was devastating and awful and awkward and messy, and she details her experiences during that time in her graphic memoir, which is also a beautiful love letter to her mom, whom she obviously adored. Dancing at the Pity Party is not a survival guide, but a survivor’s guide—I loved Feder’s tips on how to support grievers and the attractive, whimsical illustrations that filled each page. With unexpected humor and grace, this book is a total package of comfort and melancholy (and not in a way that will depress you). So special!


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